As the ladies of the psychic occult society so delightfully demonstrate, some times definitions are necessary. How we define ourselves through our writing also matters, but sometimes our readers may totally reject our representations.
In this very rejection, though, may lie the difference between ok writing and good writing. When something captures our interest enough to make us respond to a piece of writing, either with vitriolic sarcasm (“I’ll bet”) or frenzied annotations (“What was he thinking?!”), the author engaged us, took a risk, and made us stop and think.
So when you’re feeling rejected, remember at that moment of rejection, someone actually took the time to really read your work. And that must count for something in the crazy, mixed-up writer/reader relationship.